*Disclaimer: Before I start off with this post, I hope that everyone understands that I do not judge those who send their children to school and I don’t think that everyone should homeschool. My parents were called to homeschool me and my siblings, but I don’t for one second think that every parent is called to that. *End of disclaimer*
Now that I am an adult and I am around other adults who have children. . . I have found something that makes my heart very sad.
When fall rolls around – and it feels like it is coming earlier and earlier every year – There is this huge, mad dash to prepare your child for school. And while not every parent has this attitude, I seem to hear this a lot:
“Ugh! I can’t wait till my kids leave the house! I can finally have time to myself without being bothered!”
“I can’t pay someone enough to take my kids off my hands!”
“I can’t wait till I don’t have to put up with them 24/7 anymore!”
“Hooray! Back to school! My kids will be gone and I can finally get SOMETHING done!”
If you are cringing and wondering if I made this up to sound bad, think again. These exact words have issued out of the mouths of some people I know or on videos I have seen on the internet.
My heart hurts
Does anyone else hear the ugliness? If children are a gift and a blessing, then why does everyone see them as an unwanted chore? Something that doesn’t deserve their attention? Something they would rather see thrown to the wolves of society than have to take care of them themselves?
Why has this become okay?
And we wonder why so many children have issues with self-worth, finding themselves beautiful and worthy. If this is what they hear from their parents or even receive via body language or attitudes, it is little wonder. I would hate for the mom ranting into her phone in Target about how she can’t pay someone enough to take her kids to have her children, several years down the road watch this and realize that their mom seemed to care less about having them around.
Even if that is not what she meant, then why let such curses come from your mouth?
This thought process that your children aren’t worth sewing into and raising yourself. That spending time with them is a chore. That taking the time to train them is too much work is slowly poisoning our society. It just happens to come out strongly around this time and it makes my heart ache.
My parents got mad, they failed. Sometimes we bothered them and sometimes they needed alone time. They were human. But I NEVER felt like I was a waste of their time, a chore for them, and that I was some monster they had to get away from. I knew I was loved, cherished and raised with a love that showed me the Father’s love more clearly.
“Behold, children are a heritage from the Lord, the fruit of the womb a reward.
As arrows are in the hand of a warrior, so are the children of one’s youth. Happy, and blessed is the man whose quiver is filled with them. They will not be put to shame when they speak with their adversaries in the gate.”
By all means, if sending your children to school is what you have to do, then do it, but please don’t degrade them in the process.
Can we start viewing children as blessings instead of bothers? Treasures instead of terrors? And gifts instead of a responsibility to be loathed?
Have you ever been bothered by this attitude?
By God’s Grace,