I know valentine’s day has come and gone already this year. But, even though it is late, I still wanted to share my thoughts on the subject.
So many people these days, are so depressed when it comes to this day of the year. And it all comes down to being alone. They are lonely, they wish they had a significant other, etc.
And while I could jump on the bandwagon, because I too am single and I too can’t wait to start a life with someone special, I think it’s so sad that people are depressed about it. I could also go on about so many things in this post, but I want to talk about why I am not depressed about it.
The main thing for me is I feel so confident in God’s plan for me, that I don’t mind if I’m not married or in a relationship for another year. I know God has the perfect someone out there for me and that He will bring that person to me in His good timing. I have had friends and siblings who have seen God work in mighty ways to bring them the people that they love, and I couldn’t be happier for them. Seeing God’s special plan for them has made me even more excited about my own, but not depressed. It is so beautiful for something to happen in God’s own time and way, that I wouldn’t wish to change that plan for anything.
Comparison is another thief of joy. If I compared my story to someone else’s, I would probably be depressed. They are married and I’m not. They are in a relationship and I’m not. They met their heart’s desire, and I have not. See where is this going? This leads back to the previous comment. If I trust God’s plan for me completely, then why would I be wishing for something another person has?
I am single and I am free. This statement is also heard a lot. And while the whole “freedom” thing and “women’s rights” is SO not my forte, it does have merit. I am doing so many things in my life right now that I enjoy, that I love, and that I can use to bring glory to the Lord and draw others closer to him. I have so many ministry opportunities, so many opportunities in general, that I wouldn’t be able to do if I was in a relationship. And that’s not to say that the time won’t come for me to put these things aside for the sake of a relationship, but at this point in my life, I am so happy with all of the things I get to do on a daily basis! I get to write novels, pursue some dreams, encourage others, work at a job to save money for sundry necessities such as a car. I have the ability to write on this blog, to encourage people who I have come to know and be a prayer warrior for them. I even get the freedom to travel a bit. I am so excited for the season that I am in right now, and I am so confident in where God has me AT THIS MOMENT, that a longing for a relationship doesn’t get in the way. We need to make the most of EVERY opportunity. We can’t just wait around for prince charming or Miss perfect. God has big plans for us and think of what we can do between now and when we get the opportunity to raise the next generation! That is so important and I can’t wait to shape little minds of the future, but in this time, I am shaping my own mind to better equip those to come.
Well, I feel like that was all over the place, but to be honest, I can’t help it. I just feel this excitement bubbling up in me. I have been seeing God move in my life and in the lives of my family that I know it is going to be an awesome ride.
All of this is not to say that I am not excited about a future with a man that I love. Or that I don’t expectantly wait for the day I get to meet him. Or that I don’t long for the day to hold babies of my own and raise and shape them together with a human being who knows me better than anyone. A day may come when all of that finally happens:
“But it is not this day! This day we fight! By all that you hold dear on this good Earth, I bid you stand ladies of the west!” ~Aragorn, Lord of the Rings by J.R.R Tolkien
Lol! If you know anything about LOTR, then that made sense, and excuse my paraphrase. If not, forget about it. But my encouragement to you is that now is a time where we can be doing so much, even if that is the ground between your own two feet, helping with dishes, or working at school work, or folding laundry. We can make things happen during this stage of our lives, so let’s do it. And let’s be excited about it! There are so many things to be excited about!
What are your thoughts on valentine’s day?
By God’s Grace,